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June 25th, 2015 at 11:11 am

Quick aside my friend asked for this weekend a donation to her children's college fund instead of gifts. Not a problem. But this friend is Ms A. The one whose terrible with money. So I didn't want to give her cash or a check, but am in a conundrum because I do want to contribute to their college fund. Okay what should be done? If it were a friend that I thought was pretty responsible with money I don't think I'd be so leery. But with Ms A, I wonder if she'll get the money and use it with the BEST intentions.

Ms S, the very well off friend, is dropping her kiddo today to play with my two in the evening for dinner while she has a "dinner" to go to. Tomorrow her sitter is going to drop her off in the afternoon at 1ish so I can take them to the Ms A kid's birthday party together while she works out. I still don't get how she doesn't understand that she's "priviledged"? That stay at home moms don't normally get to work out and have nannys pick up their kids from camp while they don't "work" and she complains about having no time. No time to do what? She has all morning to herself while her kid is in camp from 9-1 then the nanny is getting her, then I'm taking both kids to a birthday party from 3:30-7 (4:30-6:30) but driving time is at least 30-60 minutes. So what does she do every day since her nanny does all the pickups? And she wonders why we don't hang out much anymore?

I am just tired of being in Dodge. I can't wait to leave this lifestyle and city behind. I am ready for the open road. I hope my friends have a great future all of them. At least with social media I'll be able to watch their kids grow.

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6 Responses to “Friends and Money”

  1. CB in the City Says:
    June 25th, 2015 at 12:39 pm 1435235994
    1435235994

    I hope you find more compatible friends in your new home!

  2. VS_ozgirl Says:
    June 25th, 2015 at 12:50 pm 1435236604
    1435236604

    Friends can be a drag at times can't they. I have a friend who I was really close to and found that she started acting really weird about a year ago. All of a sudden she was expecting me to always put loads of effort into our friendship. If I did, she was happy. If I didn't, she was upset and would always put cryptic posts up on social media about how people don't know what friendship is and how her animals treat her better. Would never say anything to me but the timing of it was clear that it was aimed at me. It was like she wanted me to jump through hoops to be her friend. Now I find that it's left a bad taste in my mouth- to me I remember the good times but I feel like I'm put off from wanting to do much with her anymore.

    I hope you meet some great and hopefully more like minded friends in your new place.

  3. LivingAlmostLarge Says:
    June 25th, 2015 at 02:20 pm 1435242002
    1435242002

    So do I!

  4. creditcardfree Says:
    June 25th, 2015 at 02:25 pm 1435242313
    1435242313

    I don't know how you can get around giving money for college without giving it to your friend. If you were related, then opening an account might make more sense for the child. I might actually give a gift for the child to open instead. Give a gift of cash when they graduate or are in college later.

  5. scfr Says:
    June 26th, 2015 at 12:11 am 1435277491
    1435277491

    It depends on where you live and the plan your friend participates in. My sister is in New York, and I send checks for my niece & nephew directly to the NY 529 plan.

  6. Bluebird Says:
    June 26th, 2015 at 07:01 pm 1435345264
    1435345264

    Ask your friend the name of the college fund because you want to fill out the check appropriately.

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