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July 10th, 2023 at 06:40 am
Wow. I just read the most recent financial samurai post about FS's wife losing her passport. She said it was full benefit, meaning she learned a lesson and turned it around. That was good there were benefits to what she did.
But I guess what stood out to me in the whole post and I read Financial Samurai all the time, that she used task rabbit to hire someone to stand in line for her. Yes she paid someone to stand in line for her $134 actually.
So why am i writing this? I guess because this post made it eminently clear the US for a 1st world country is quickly dividing into the haves and have nots. Where labor is becoming very cheap and people are working these jobs like uber, door dash, that make other people's lives convienent.
A friend said that people are working those jobs for second income, probably true. But when did the US have such a income discrepancy that it makes it so easy to pay others for these types of jobs? I've always toyed with the idea of doing task rabbit. I'm curious if it really is profitable.
I actually have a fedex driver client who tried uber but told me it wasn't worth his time. He made too much as a fedex driver and would do better working overtime for them. Totally true, I do his taxes. He also said most people don't make very much doing uber, but those "professional" uber drivers (drive a prius, and work set hours) are more like cab drivers and know how to do it profitably. But they've mastered where and how to drive.
So is this the same with task rabbit? Have we crossed into a more inequitable society where we can afford to pay for stuff because the income discrepancy is so high? I think it has and I've actually thought this for awhile now.
July 8th, 2023 at 12:06 am
I work for myself now. It's fun, interesting, and I really like it. I don't think I'll ever go back to working for a company. It's harder in some ways and easier in others. I'm fortunate to be married to a person who has a company job that provides benefits. Would I be doing what I'm doing if I had to buy insurance? Maybe yes still. I don't know. But if I had to provide insurance, the question would be why is my husband not working for a company? The answer being that he started his own consulting firm, then probably yes because if he did we did well enough to manage. But otherwise he's more the corporate type.
Well thsi is my second year and first really full year working for myself. Last year I did it but I wasn't sure if I was coming back to it. This time my answer to client is yes, spread the word. I am doing this. I'm not saying I'll do it forever, but there is a pretty long horizon. I can see myself doing this another 10 years until the kids finish college and then reevaluating. Maybe even sooner. I could be done by 2030 when my youngest leaves for college.
But in the right here, right now moment I have to look at my business income and expenses. Currently I've made around ~$35k and I set aside already $22.5k for my 401k for the year. I haven't contributed yet because I'm not sure if I want to do a Roth 401k or traditional 401k. I've paid for my software, insurance. But I haven't paid my taxes yet or any other expenses. I'm debating. My taxes could be minimal if I do the traditional 401k. Thus I'd have extra money to spend. Or I might have to pay the current amount to taxes.
How to balance spending and saving? It's a question constantly posed on this board. Right now I feel like I've basically worked to fund retirement, taxes, and I've contributed nothing to the household maintenance or fun spending. But i'm unsure how much more I'm making this year.
Do I pay more bills with the remainder or send it to taxes later?
March 19th, 2023 at 10:52 pm
So yes it personally did affect our life and we got to see SVB up close and very personal.
We were very fortunate to get paid on Wednesday March 8th. My DH's payroll is through rippling and they took the money out March 7th to pay his company. So they had around $10m at SVB. They also fortunately had a super smart accountant who put the rest of their money into treasuries. So they used to be chase private clients but they found it hard when starting out because Chase saw a $6M deposit and held it for 90 days. So how were they supposed to be paying payroll, bills, rent, etc when money given to them by VC wasn't liquid and the "bank" didn't want to release the funds? It wasn't happening. So a VC partner said "hey got to SVB, they understand start ups. They understand how money in millions comes in, they'll let run your start up and use your money."
So they moved a portion of their money to SVB and the rest the accountant suggested treasuries. $10m was 25% of their money and about 8-12 months of burn. That seemed very reasonable and it seemed secure. I mean it was in a savings/checking account earning pretty much NOTHING. The CEO wasn't about to risk his company and he thought he was nervous about losing money and not making payroll. So solid "checking/savings" account and investment in "treasuries separate". Good plan.
But then the week of March 6th the CEO, and yes this is first hand, my DH called me and we were away for the March 10th weekend and the CEO called us and as was trying to figure out how to access his treasury securities just in case. He was told by the same VC investor (and probably others), that SVB was in precarious shape and he should get his money out. He tried. He put in 4 separate wire transfers trying to get his money out. He got out around $2.5M of the $10M and justifiably was freaking out.
The $2.5M he told us was around 2-3 months of burn so we were fine. The company could meet obligations and have time to cash in their treasuries and still be okay. Yes they had lost about $7-8 million dollars but it wasn't the end of the world. I mean it sucked royally that they had "lost" their investment through no fault of their own except believing money in a bank checking/savings account should be safe.
So yeah I'm pissed. I do think that the federal government should FORCE the SVB excecutives to give back their bonuses and salaries for 5 years and attempt to cover ALL depositors their deposits. The company my DH started with 7 other guys in 2021. I type on here, we're normal people. We aren't multi-millionaires playing. He sunk in his time and took a huge risk, and we truly believed that his company's money was safe and they thought they were doing the "right' thing. They are growing the business to 60 people now in 2 years. Isn't that what it's supposed to be be? A small business growth? That they will likely be revenue positive soon and have been growing like crazy.
They did everything right but you don't want to "bail out" these depositor who just thought that putting money in a checking/savings account would be safe? Then why even put money in banks? How do you want small businesses to run? How do you expect people to start companies and be innovative without some sort of belief that the BANKS are inherently safe?
Where do you want them to put their $10m? Where? How should they have it to pay my husband and his employees? How should they keep it liquid? Does this mean that small businesses shouldn't be allowed to start or grow? What if it were $1m and that covered the business for 1 year burn? It should be in 4 banks to cover it by FDIC?
Or should there be some sort of faith/justification that putting it in a bank means it's safe? What about people? Guess this means if you have more than $250k personally you should not be leaving it anywhere near a bank.
That's the problem SVB is going to teach us. That banks aren't to be trusted. Well maybe really big banks only. It's just a difficult thing to wrap your head around. That banks suck. That putting your money into a bank and not "investing" it but seriously just putting it into a checking/savings account = risk seems nuts. But is this the new norm?
October 20th, 2022 at 12:04 am
When you don't work outside the home it can be tough. I say that because I've been there, done that. It's a really tough thing. How so? The lack of respect and validation and feeling of self-worth can be hard to maintain. I write this for two reasons.
One a friend talked to me about how she felt being "only" a mom. She had done her phd as well in biology and now she was "only a mom." She feels like she needs to work to find herself outside of the kids. I told her I totally get it. That it's really hard to go from an important "job" to not having a job. It's really hard still for me to be in a group of people and not work full time and have a "career". I have a "job". I like what I do. But I still feel embarrassed at times. I told her I do still feel judged. I have definitely felt lesser at the company holiday party when people say "what do you do?" And I hear "why don't you work?" The answer now interestingly even though I started my own business is "I take care of my kids."
I usually get a gasp and silence but i decided after I started my own business I no longer needed validation from anyone. I only needed my own self worth. Maybe it was after 40 I give a rat's behind about anything. I now say random stuff like I could care less what my kids do as long as they are happy and productive. I pulled them out of gifted programs because they weren't happy. We turned down a choice school opportunity because I thought my kid would struggle making friends.
Yes I say all those things now and I sometimes I mention working but often I say I don't work and I'm free. It's still a bit weird that I don't use my phd, but at the same time it took a long time to figuer out I hated it. I told my friend I achieved pretty much everything a parent could want. Excellent test scores, grades, extracurriculars, and acceptance into every school I applied to. I got into every top program both in undergraduate and graduate school. My resume read like someone who did everything right and yet I detoured and found my zen with my kids, new job, and life.
But then again I am married to guy who also quit his 1st career and found his zen. His resume also reads "accomplished everything parents want" then quit job, moved, changed careers and let wife not work and raise kids. If we lived the way everyone else expected us to we'd be a "high power couple" climbing the ladder. But instead we meander our way on 1 income, driving crappy cars, and working at jobs that are fufilling. Maybe it's my husband's acceptance.
The second reason I wrote this? This weekend he was trying to recruit someone to work for him. The guy asked "how do you do it? how do you have a family and do a start-up?" DH "my wife does everything." And the accceptance of it works. At the same time we both committed to this short term insanity knowing that it was his dream to start a company (yes when I met him he wanted to do this no lie). He wanted to make a mark and build his own company and he passed on one about 15 years ago and regretted it. This time I said he had to do it, and we knew it was not going to be easy. And now at the startup? When anyone asks I just say I stay at home. I am definitely not embarrassed because we wouldn't be doing this if he was pulling his weight at home. I know my worth and contribution right now.
Maybe it's age. But truth it is still really hard to be "non-working" spouse. To be the partner who takes the step back and follows and supports. But at the same time you have to look at yourself and say it's enough. That you know what you are truly worth and give yourself a pat on the back. It's okay to be happy with a "lesser" role. So to all my friends struggling with finding their place and being okay with it.
You have value. You are amazing and can do anything you want. A career doesn't define it. It's just money or a job. The title means nothing. Who you are is defined by whatever you want it to be. And it's not "less". What you do is work. And you do not have to work outside the home to have a job. (wish someone had told me that at 30!)
October 7th, 2022 at 07:42 am
Yesterday Barry Sharpless won his second nobel prize. He is the 5th person ever and only living person to have 2 nobel prizes. DH was working with Barry when he won his 1st nobel prize in 2001. It was a privilege to meet, chat, and learn from him. DH called him a genius and he really was. I remember being 22 and impressed with his house and the guy himself when I met him. He drove a Honda Civic hatchback because he didn't care what he drove. But flew always with 2 seats in first class so he could have space for his papers to read and work on planes.
I remember him talking to a bunch of us young students, hanging yes on his every word, telling us not to give up. That we needed to find our passion. That you should love what you do because it will lead to success. That wanting to go to work would lead to money. Money he said doesn't do anything but buy you the opportunity to find happiness. He said when he just wanted to explore where science lead him.
His energy and work ethic because of his passion were amazing. And we never forget the lesson of being excited about work. When you stop being excited he said it shows and that's when it's time to move on and figure out what does excite you.
I get people working hard to FIRE and find their passion. But not all of us can easily retire super cheap and save tons of money early on. Instead some of us have to suck it up and work awhile. But we always remembered that if we weren't excited we should move on. Because the passion for work showed and it helped us stand out and succeed at our jobs rather than just sliding by and meandering.
It also was enlightening to see someone working very obviously NOT for money (he's a multimillionaire several times over and was by the time we met him). But because he loves what he does. His recent interview he was asked what is it like to know that he helped change the world by creating 2 new chemical reactions both increadibly important and revelotionary to drug discovery. Without these reactions we would not be where we are today in modern medicine. His answer "it's why he works because he wants to give back to society and loves what he does. He never imagined it would have this sort of impact."
As for us? I'm still not sure I want to be working at 81. But if I still love what I do then I guess I will. I am reminding DH now that with his startup if he loves what he does great. But after this I think he's FI, will he RE? I don't know. He's so passionate about what he does he says he can't imagine quitting. Guess following our passion has been lucrative and nice.
June 15th, 2021 at 06:50 pm
Where should I start? Guess with the most interesting. DH's company turned down the buyout. They didn't want to go back and work for a Megacorp. I was surprised but at the same time someone pointed out they left their soul-sucking jobs to do something they believe in. They made enough money already that making more money didn't seem the point. I can't believe it. I'm glad because my DH is happy and still moving forward.
Spending for May
Eating out $473
Travel $1802 (paid for August VRBO)
Kids Camps/activities $1502
Business LAL $2491
It was a very spendy month. So good thing we refinanced our mortgage last week June 10th. No payment until August 2021. We are doing pretty well though with our spending otherwise.
Property Taxes $8k (done for 6 months ready for 11/1 Payment and insurance in August)
Sink $5000 (haven't had to touch yet)
Roth $2000 (already saved $10k this year moved it)
Robinhood $700 (my difference in refinance and old mortgage June $700 saved!)
I believe we managed to save $2k from last month and float all the extra charges without touching our sink funds which is what was part of the budget. My goal is to pay our insurance without really touching the sink funds or property taxes in August (home $1200, auto $1000, umbrella $300) and then also still continue to save $700 7/1 and 8/1 and 9/1. I invested the $700 in small cap ETF Vanguard IWOO
Our networth was up in May by $3886/month. The markets were down. But we are up for the year $293469. Also I did not move the needle on the value of our house. It appraised by the bank lower for sure than what we could get and a lot higher than what we paid.
June 9th, 2021 at 06:06 pm
We are at a crossroads. Unfortunately we are not able to control our crossroads. What does that mean? Well DH has been at a startup as you know. We took a risk and it's paid off. There is a serious offer on the table and it means quite a bit of money. Life changing? Yes. We would have hit our FIRE number. We would be completely able to Fat FIRE. Combined with our current savings and we are looking at a 2x FIRE number. DH would not RE because he doesn't want to.
But why the crossroads? Because he doesn't want the offer. He likes what he's doing and he wants to continue and maybe make more money. He wants the risk. He loves the job. But it's not up to him. It's up to the group in the whole. So it's not a one person decision. The greater good. I'm not sure how it's going to play out.
There are 8 guys. I can see how difficult it will be since some will want to continue and others will want to take the security and guarantee. There are few guarantees in life. To know that we are financially secure is comforting. But at the same time we didn't just sign on for this. We signed on for the chance to do something big. I don't know what will happen. I guess we'll know in a week or maybe even tonight.
Fingers crossed. Who knows what will happen.
May 27th, 2020 at 07:24 am
So DH has been given the opportunity to WFH permanently and through the end of the year. What that means for us and what we are doing about it?
First off our house is not exactly suitable for all four of us living in it all the time. It doesn't really work with both of us working, him full time and me intermittently part-time from home. We have a nice home. It's 3bd/3ba with a large playroom/bonus room. But there isn't a fourth bedroom or dedicated office. We have about 2100 sq ft. I love our house and yard.
So here's the deal. We are considering putting in a shed with electric so that we can have a private office. But the trade offs? No guest bedroom. We can't see the kids while we work if one of us is not home. It'll cost between $10-25k.
Or we could move. That is something we're considering. But the next question is if we move, do we move away completely?
Do we move away from our neighborhood? Do we move somewhere cheaper and DH WFH permenantly? His salary would be "Adjusted" down if it were a cheaper cost of living. But does it really matter if he's still earning a good salary?
I mean where we live homes run about $1.5M. So moving even if they adjust his salary we'd probably come out ahead. But the real question is if he ever lost his job would we be forced to move back to an expensive area? Of course we would relocate with him being the primary breadwinner we would follow his job.
So do we stay in a place that is easy and we never have to move for a job until he retires? Or do we take a chance and move somewhere that if he were to lose his job I bet it cold be difficult to find another?
That's the real underlying question to moving anywhere and having a WFH job. What is the possibility of you finding another job like that one? Is it a common WFH job that you could? Or is it a specialized one that may require relcocating?
The answer we're pretty sure is it's specialized for DH. He makes a lot of money. So a job loss would make it definitely worth moving.
We've been talking a lot and looking into our options. I think we're going to build a shed. We are going to watch the local market to move into a bigger home. But we aren't leaving the area because DH wants to work until 2034 when DK2 finishes college and he'd rather stay where he has networking connections and he feels secure about finding a job easily if he had to.
So right now we are in a holding pattern.
April 1st, 2020 at 10:23 pm
DH has been at home working for a month. I'm about to start and it's going to be hard. I am struggling because right now DH can't do work and be head teacher. I'm doing it and it's hard, harder than I ever imagined. I used to think homeschooling would be cool and I always admired parents who did it. Now I think I'm not sure I can do it but people who do are amazing. However I can't imagine trying to homeschool while working full time. I can easily see how everything goes off the rails fast. When I was trying to work in office (I ended last thursday) the house was off the rails. Everything a mess, barely hanging on. It was a nightmare.
What do I find hard? Maybe it's because I worry we aren't keeping up. I worry that I'm not doing it right. I worry that am I really engaging the kids as much as they should.
I will admit I am lucky. Lucky how? We are not financial unstable so whatever happens DH and I are fine. I don't need to work so I can focus on the kids. Lucky that our kid's are special needs so the IEP for speech and hearing isn't like many others who normally have a full time aid. Parents who need extra support and are floundering. Finally we are also lucky that we live somewhere awesome. How so?
While we are social distancing we are also able to go outside and ride bikes 2x a day rain or shine with neighbors. There are 2 other families with kids exactly in 2nd and 4th grade. And another family with slightly younger kids who is grateful to get them outside. This somewhat social interaction for 30-60 minutes a time gives us time to talk at a distance. Sometimes we even sit in chairs and chat. Also kids get much needed exercise and working out.
On a funny note I keep seeing memes about Generation Xers being ready for this. We were made for this. YES! The once unparented generation of latchkey kids are ready to stay at home. We totally get how to chill at home and relax and be amused. We aren't needing to go out. We are happiest at home. I guess our childhoods of working and/or divorced parents did prepare this for us.
How are you dealing with the lockdown if you are under one?
January 6th, 2018 at 05:48 pm
I made around $3200 working for the year. I'm happy. It's not a lot but it's a lot of snowflakes. Considering I did the bulk of it when my kids were in school and I paid $0 for childcare it's gravy.
I've been thinking a lot about it. I could probably go back and land a full time job of $50k starting. But I'm not sure that's the path I'm meant to go down. I like being busy. I love having adult interactions. But at the same time I like have the freedom to call in if the kids are sick. I like not bringing work home. I also like being with them.
But let's say I start now making $50k. And work another 10 years and make $80k by the end of 10 years. Not an unreasonable goal I believe. But out of the $50k the biggest savings would be the $18.5k 401k savings I manage to work at a full time job with one. So we'd save an extra $185k in 10 years. But then the rest of my income let's assume 60% ($30k would go straight to taxes). I'm in the 34% bracket or higher so $15k would go straight to federal taxes. Then assuming SS and Medicare I'm looking at another 8% gone. So working full time I will make around $10k/year to spend on after school care since I'll be working full time. That $10k will be gone with 2 kids and after school costs $500/month during the year plus the summer costs? I won't be making $18.5k savings probably closer to $15k/year.
I believe I can make around that much working part-time where I. I can make $15/hr easily and if I make $20-25/hr part-time why not? I'm thinking still of doing the CFP and going out on my own. Writing off expenses would work better.
Anyway I think having more time this year to work out the numbers of my earnings I think it still makes more sense to work part-time and flexible for less money.
October 1st, 2017 at 05:36 pm
I was thinking a lot about this recently even before it came up on threads. That yes people judge moms who work versus those who don't. But it's more than that. It's not gender specific but rather people also judge what you do. That what you do "should" be prestigious and have a title and sound "important" or worth it.
I've been thinking a lot about this lately. My friend getting divorced started it. She said she is working full time again but is working at costco in the warehouse. But before she was more management tracked and making the same amount. But now it feels like more work and harder versus her cushy office job that paid the exact same. She also feels it's not as "prestigious" but the hours in warehouse is better than her office job. So she says mentally she knows it's better. But she has trouble wrapping her head around being a cashier versus working in the office.
Then another friend recently started working at starbucks making coffee. She said she loves the flexibility and wasn't interested in going back into business/marketing. She was done with full time and long hours. But when she told people they thought her nuts. I can only imagine even for me it's the same. Leaving a lucrative career for one less so.
I have been getting that a lot recently. That what I do is less lucrative and not full time. It's also less prestigious but I like what I do. But what's really strange? I asked my manager why he did it. And he said he gets that a lot. Asked why he doesn't go back to accounting full time. Why is he working at such a reduced salary?
He said he used to do taxes for the extra income 20 years ago. Then about 5 or 6 years ago he started taking care of his mom and quit his full time job and worked only part-time. Then she passed about 2 years ago and he hasn't had much desire or drive to go back to a 9-5 gig. He can make his bills and survive easily on the part-time work. He likes the flexibility of not coming in every day and showing up at 12 pm. He said he's not sure if he'll ever be ready to commit back to being a full time clock puncher. And yet he said a lot of people keep asking him why doesn't he get a full time job (myself included)?
Truth is that when he told me his story I got it. I realized that as a society both genders are told we have to "work" full time. We have to contribute and are expected to be working full time. It's strange to find people not working and surviving. Either because they live on less or have saved a lot. But it's unfathomable that someone (male or female) would choose to live so modestly.
DH and I have gotten it a lot. Judged by many that we have chosen to live on 1 income and that the second income we've given up has been substantial. But the lifestyle we've gotten in return we both feel is less stressful, more relaxed and more us. Even now the choice of not moving back into a more career field has been judged by others. I truly believe if i were a man i'd be judged even harsher. I think men are judged harsher about not earning the "most" they can. Women are given some leeway with kids but those without are expected to climb the ladder.
Have you noticed this? That people really judge both men and women career wise?
April 11th, 2017 at 03:19 pm
We owed $6500 this year. Sounds like lot? It is. We actually would have been okay if we hadn't rolled $60k from a 401k into a Roth IRA for my DH and paid the taxes on it.
We did this to fill the 25% bracket we are in and tax advantage of being here for this year. I'm not sure where we will be in the future but I think it's reasonable to guess we might not be able to take advantage of it again for awhile.
That being said we rolled DH's old 401k to new 401k and took a $60k distribution. This way we aren't holding a rollover IRA and that will prevent us from doing a clean back door roth ira annually. Otherwise we have to calculate across all pre-tax IRA dollars the amount we are rolling over. We can now contribute to a non-deductible IRA and roll it to a Roth IRA every year still.
I have to say I'm hoping they streamline the tax laws. I'm curious if the breaks will only be for the rich.
I'm crazy busy working nightly right now and loving it. I will admit it is fun to do taxes.
January 13th, 2017 at 07:15 pm
Since I started working part-time things have been crazy. I enjoy it. I love getting away from the kids. But the truth is that the money is good too. I haven't done anything with it but put into our account. But it's nice to be having adult interaction and identity away from the kids.
Next step realtor license. I want to work for redfin doing tours. All this is a long term plan after we buy the house.
January 3rd, 2017 at 09:22 pm
I did it. I started doing taxes for HR Block part-time. I'm not sure if i'll do this long term. I think I'd like something year round. But this was a break into working again after not working since June 2010. It's minimum wage and I'd have to work next year in order to be able to get the minimum wage and then commission on number of returns done. Thus the high turnover rate of 1st year tax preparers. But with the continuing education prep I've at least made $250 and it's paid for the $149 course.
My next step? I am thinking of studying online to get a realtor license and hopefully landing a job as a redfin touring agent. I prefer doing that sort of realtor work than selling or buying homes.
Perhaps i'll end up doing what I trained for again one day. But for right now I'm liking this part-time gigs. The only problem is I'm trading babysitting since I'm working nights from 5-9 and DH has trouble getting home by 4:45 so a friend is watching the kids for an hour and I'm watching hers during the day. Phew.
October 8th, 2016 at 03:56 pm
It's been a great year. I'm doing it now a little late because as of September 1st we spent a whole year in our new life. It's been amazing for all of us. We got to get closer as a family with DH not working for 11 months. He pretty much did not get a paycheck for 12 months. But he was unemployed from August 15 2015 to July 25 2016.
We burned through $91.5k. Yes you read that right in 11 months. Granted $17k was tuition but still that $74.5k. We spent around $6700/month including our fees for renting our place which was $8k up front costs. So we spent around our normal $5500/month rate we had budgeted. Lucky for us a signing bonus helped bump our spending for the year up to $71.5k including the $17k tuition.
Was it worth it? Yes. We had a great time. I think perhaps our spending will force us to delay "retirement" by 1 year.
I forgot that from our $91.5k we direct $4k to college for kids, $11k to Roth IRA so I guess we "saved" $15k out of the $91.5k. Also we're maxing out Roth IRA and 401k this year on a compressed 5 month paychecks. So we're still on track to save for retirement even if we aren't saving our normal cash cushion.
But the real goals were met. Move and be able to be closer to family. Get job that DH loves. Buy a house. Check on first two and working on the third.
Sometimes in life as I'm reflecting on the past year you have to spend money to make money. You have to invest in yourself, maybe start a business, buy a rental property, go back to school and retrain to get to where you want to be. It's a HUGE risk and it can cost you a lot of money. But the rewards can be significant, not just financial but pay dividends in other ways.
I suspect our net worth might be able net zero with gains in our retirement accounts. But back to regular programming of saving now. I have to admit it was REALLY daunting spending all this cash without any income. To go from being a saver to a spender. This could be why my DH and I are not meant to be true early retirees, we are too nervous nellies and risk averse to pull the trigger. We're actually very close to being able to do it but would rather pad our accounts.
July 19th, 2016 at 07:35 am
I have been reflecting a lot on going back to work. But the problem I'm running into is what do I want to do? Not just what do I want to do but how to get there? I mean it's so hard to find your passion. But more than that how to even get back into the job market after so long out.
For me it's been 6 years. What does a person do? I've been toying around with trying to set up and internship. But the question is will that help land me a job? But before finding a job how do I find the right one?
I can see that my DH struggled a long time with his career change. He's so excited with his new career and he's passionate again. The two months he was job hunting I saw the high and the lows and the doubts. The doubt that he had made the right decision. That he would be able to find a job. He wondered if giving up something he knew he could do. He actually still has imposter syndrome. He wonders if he can do it. If they'll realize he's fake.
That's exactly how I feel. I don't really want to do what I did. If I do something new then do I need to get more training? How do I test out the new career track? How did you change careers? Was it worth it?
July 6th, 2016 at 04:08 pm
This weekend we hung out with my BIL staying at his apartment. He's 36 and never bought his own place. Partially because he's not had a down payment and partially because he's never been sure he wanted to stay put. Truth is his first 2 years working there were layoffs at his company and he wasn't sure if he would stay. He feels secure now but not happy.
So buying a place for a job he isn't in love with doesn't make sense. We've told him if he's unhappy and thinks he'll find a new job or career don't buy. But at the same time he feels he's flushing money down the toilet. And he feels he can't leave his job, he's got some security through a large salary. He's in the middle of being handcuffed to his salary. Honestly if he buys a condo I think he'll be even more handcuffed.
And yes he has been renting his apartment for 4 years and rent keeps escalating. It was $1600, then $1750, then $1900, and now it's $2100/month for a 1 bedroom. But buying means he's committed to the area he doesn't love. It means he needs a big EF in case he loses his job and if he gets a new job and it's not easily commutable he has to sell and move.
SA thread was discussing whether you hate your job. I think if you do you should figure out how to change it or your career. Sometimes it's just the job and sometimes it's the career. And it's hard to leave the job if it's so lucrative for your family/self. It's hard if it's convenient. But you can make a plan and change I think.
What do you think about being handcuffed to a job?