So how do you know someone is cheap versus frugal? Well I'm going to tell you a story. You're probably going LAL why are you friends with this person? And my answer will be I'm trying to shed her but it's slow going.
So Drusilla (nickname) is dropping her two children off at another friend's house (the Commandant). Drusilla sees Tabasco (commandant's kid) and Skipper (mine) and "says why are they here? I thought the commandant was taking them away," so her two kids (Gus and Jack) could be watched by Commandant's teenage kid Big E. She brought one $5 Cheese pizza and said to Big E "don't feed Tabasco and Skipper, I want the leftovers."
Um okay can you say rude? Hello? No pizza for the babysitter? And you can't spare a piece for my kid and Commandant's kid? We've feed your kids before. It's one of those moments where I realized the cheap Drusilla reigned again.
Also when I said I was buying Drusilla's kid an outfit for the second birthday I was told not to she wanted cash. So I put the screws to her and said it was to match my DK #2. And I wanted to see since she was consigning all the other clothes the Commandant gave her from Tabasco! OMG. How could she sell the clothes that were given to her? I know this because she has NO matching outfits for her kiddo which I know she should have since I have it for Skipper and saved it.
May the shedding begin.
Edited: I said I would like to buy a gift and the mother said "give me money." Not great thank you so much, and turned around and returned it. NO, it was a blatant ask. Second, I found out after our mutual friend was asked last year when she gave a gift to return it and instead give Drusilla money. She returned the gift and didn't give anything. The commandant was a bit miffed at being told please take your gift with the gift receipt back and give cash instead.
Second, Drusilla asked Big E (babysitter and Commandant's older child) to not eat the pizza and pack up leftover. Perhaps I'm wrong but since when do people NOT feed the babysitter? Fine don't feel other people's kids. But the babysitter?
Third, there is no way it's okay to consign people's clothes they give you? But perhaps it is.
Miserly People
October 6th, 2014 at 04:42 pm
October 6th, 2014 at 06:09 pm 1412618984
You could decline requests for her children to visit your home. I'm wondering if the meals they get at your home are the best they are offered. Some mothers measure out food according to daily nutritional requirements published by USDA [grain 3 oz, fruit 1/4C, veg 1C, dairy 1C, protein 2 oz.] for a 2 y/o .
October 6th, 2014 at 06:33 pm 1412620411
October 6th, 2014 at 06:49 pm 1412621361
October 7th, 2014 at 12:02 am 1412640121
She's also the type of person who refused to give the kids crackers and said it's expensive crackers for adults, but brought it to a potluck dinner of kids and moms.
October 7th, 2014 at 01:24 am 1412645047
If there is a pattern of cheapness than I can understand your frustration, but I don't think that she's actually wrong about the pizza. Of course it would be nice if she shared, but she is under no obligation to do so if it is not an agreed on term of the babysitting.
October 7th, 2014 at 01:39 am 1412645945
November 9th, 2014 at 06:59 pm 1415559563