Again warning please don't read if you don't want to hear about death.
So my dad passed away this morning between the hours of 4 am - 6 am. My mom finally went to bed at around 4 am. She was exhausted after sitting with him pretty much all times. She really wanted to be there holding his hand for his last breathe. But she just couldn't stay up 24/7.
But also my dad had transitioned to the hospice definition of "imminent" on Friday morning. My mom called me on Thursday that my dad had stopped eating and drinking anything and she was worried. So after just getting back I jumped on the plane Friday morning. He was asleep when I arrived, but she said he smiled when she told him Friday morning. I believe he reacted when I touched him Friday afternoon and said I was back.
He survived the weekend until early this Wednesday morning. I'm not sure how or why but I think my mom wasn't ready to let him go and he was waiting for her to leave his side. I don't think my mom slept much since Thursday. And I think my dad was waiting for her to not be with him before he passed.
My dad's end of life was very long and draining process. It was hard watching him deteriorate this past year and not really able to judge how he was doing. I would say that by Christmas he was very unable to comprehend seeing us except for brief moments. But since February he was declining quickly it appeared by becoming most immobile and non-verbal. I knew saying good by at Christmas that was the last time I would really talk to my dad and say I love you.
But I came back because my mom couldn't be alone. So I came back and I'm glad to be here with her. It'll be hard but we'll see what happens. They managed to celebrate their 35th wedding anniversary and while she's taking it hard, I know she'll be okay eventually. Gotta enjoy life before it runs out.
"No amount of money bought another second of time." No matter what we all wish. Sometimes we get so focused on money and getting to the endgame we forget to enjoy the journey along the way. And the journey is the best part.
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Prayers for you and your family
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Some people hold on until someone gets there. Some prefer to cross over alone.
I hope your mother finds peace and your memories comfort you all.
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