Home > Going back to the way it was?

Going back to the way it was?

May 5th, 2020 at 06:01 pm

Okay so here's the question are you going out again one the bans lift where you are? Will you go back to eating out, shopping, living the way you lived? Are you still going to live austerely? Will you travel?

Right now all I want to do is get on a plane and see my family in hawaii. But that is on the backburner and i have no idea when that will happen.

But otherwise? I don't see us changing much from now. I asked my DH we don't see ourselves going traveling. We don't see ourselves eating out. So we are going to sit at home and not spend more money than we do. I mean we spend quite a bit, but on other stuff no. It's just not going to happen. How can it?

But maybe I'm wrong. Maybe we go back to the way things were. But even then I know we'll likely buffer ourselves with airline tickets, hotel rooms, etc. Even eating out I don't know. How to go away for the weekend and not eat out? Or only camping?

Do you see yourself doing the normal life? Will you change at all or same as before?

19 Responses to “Going back to the way it was?”

  1. Creditcardfree Says:

    Yep, back to normal. My husband can't wait to get time off to go somewhere. Going to the post office now. We rarely eat out, so that has been a non issue. The more this goes on the more I observe more and more people out, and despite no order lift yet, cases are still declining in our area. People should look at numbers on CDC website. One column lists COVID, the next column combines CoVid flu and pneumonia together. The media is reporting the second column as though all are CoVid deaths. Not exactly full disclosure by media in my opinion.

  2. Wink Says:

    No, I won't be going out and participating in recreational activities right away when the ban in my state is lifted. I would want to wait at least a few weeks (maybe longer) to see if the spread, and resulting deaths, starts to increase again.

  3. Petunia 100 Says:

    I think that we will be sticking to outings in our tiny town for the foreseeable future.

  4. jokeabee Says:

    We love going out to eat and sitting at different bars and going to baseball games. The two things I was looking forward to the most this year were a Less Than Jake concert and the Limestone Comedy Festival. Both were postponed and I will be attending neither until there is a vaccine. I won't be going and sitting at bars and going to baseball games until there is a vaccine.

    I am an adult programming librarian. I cannot in good conscious plan events where people congregate in a small room, in a building with circulating air. I will be doing drop in/take home crafts and virtual programs.

    We are not going back to the way things were last Fall-at least not anytime soon. But we can chart new courses and use our imaginations to continue on with our daily lives.

  5. Smallsteps Says:

    I just read that NY may open areas that had small issues in phases starting on may 18. That IMO will make some governors ( low Number states) rethink dragging this on.
    In my area many places have either opened up secretly or opening clearly and so far the response has been "Stop or i will yell Stop again" since many sheriffs in state refuse to enforce anymore. we have gone out to eat for the last 2 Saturdays and DH is golfing today it was silly to close that as they are always social distancing.
    my work wants most office staff to stay home until June 1. I went out shopping for flowers for yard last weekend and go to grocery at least once a week. we drove across state a couple weeks ago and we will travel more when they finally "Officially " open ... do not have flight plans right now but also not afraid.

  6. My English Castle Says:

    Our cases are still climbing. As things simmer down we'll likely travel a bit but be more cautious. We've not been in a store since March 17, and will likely continue delivery for a while. I'm in wait and see mode. But my employer is cautious as they should be.

  7. Lucky Robin Says:

    I think we will continue to take some precautions, but I don't want to keep living like this. I won't go crazy. I won't use public transportation or shop at peak times or eat in restaurants or go to movies. But we will get out more, mostly in nature. I will keep my mask on me at all times in case of unexpected crowds. I will go to the dentist, the eye doctor, and the rheumatologist in person. I will probably keep some normal doctor visits to telemedicine if that is still an option.

  8. Lots of Ideas Says:

    Where I live we cannot get the relatively high numbers to drop, and it is hard to accept that 150-250 people are going to die from this every day. And this is not normal - the local paper is running 20 pages of obituaries every Sunday when there send to be two. I live near a hospital and the sirens go all the time. I hate even walking outside because it is constant.

    My gym, which was the core of my social life, is owned by the hospital and half the gym members work there. I am not comfortable going back even though I generally think it is very clean. Too many people will likely be exposed, and I can’t imagine working out with a mask. This is a huge loss to me.

    The same with restaurants in the area - most are small and frequented by the hospital staff. The idea of food made by someone other than me scares me.

    I live in the city without a car, and I cannot imagine riding in a train or bus.
    As for traveling, I don’t think I could sleep on a mattress or sheets that someone else slept on, or be cramped up in a plane.

    And I was never a germophobe or generally anxious about stuff like this.

    I live alone, and if I get sick, I would either have to manage on my own or endanger someone else to care for me. In some ways, facing what I think is years of this, dying doesn’t seem like the worst option, but I don’t want to endanger anyone else who might not feel that way.

    I think if you live where it isn’t hitting hard this might not seem real, but when so many people are sick and dead this isn't a hoax and it isn’t the flu.

    I’m staying home.

  9. CB in the City Says:

    I, too, am in an area that's bad. We had the highest number of deaths yesterday since the pandemic began. And to my mind it does not matter whether it is death by COVID alone or complicated by pneumonia. Death is death. I have been home alone since the second week of March, and I will continue to stay home alone until I see visible improvement in the death toll, which I think is the important number. Cases rise because testing is ramping up, but deaths tell the real story.

    Nor do I think these deaths are expendable because the victims are largely older, or sick. I'm older and sick. My life matters. I'm sorry, but I see this callous attitude working in the people who want to rush opening up, and it's distressing.

    I'll probably be home until we get a treatment/vaccine.

  10. LivingAlmostLarge Says:

    CCF are you driving or flying? Will you be staying in a hotel, camping, etc? Will you be going to a place with more cases than where you are at?

    I too see myself at least going to the store once a week. At least going out for that but more traveling and stuff? I can't. My DH refuses to use a public restroom and doesn't want the kids which makes camping hard unless we go backpacking.

    Like LR I will also be using mask and gloves for the foreseeable future and I'm not even sure I trust my kids and DH to go out until they are really ready. I'll still be the solo person going shopping and doing stuff. I think we can go out to eat takeout and see friends maybe outside but I'm still unsure.

    I don't know what to do because I think where I am is bad but I also think that people are terrified to really go out.

  11. disneysteve Says:

    We're in a very high risk area. I don't think we're going anywhere anytime soon. The governor just extended the state of emergency another 30 days through June 5 so nothing is changing here soon anyway.

    I really miss eating out and going to the gym. Those are the things I most want to get back to but it's going to be at least another couple of months I'm sure.

  12. terri77 Says:

    I’ll take it slow whenever things do reopen. I’m in no rush, but I really miss traveling.

  13. Fern Says:

    Of course I'd like to see things get back to normal, but even if Connecticut's governor gives the all clear on May 20 (it will be more gradual than that...) I will be wary. I'm not sure I'll feel comfortable returning to my office anytime soon, and I've been wondering if my office tells employees we need to return at that point, what's going to happen. Because I'm not sure I'll feel comfortable enough to do that. I happen to work closely with a coworker who has the most disgusting habit (even pre-COVID) of licking her fingers and then touching all the pages I need to edit. You know, to turn the pages more easily.

    I think I once mentioned it to her, ever so gently, as I didn't want to get germs from her when she was sick. I think she said something like, I'm not sure I can stop doing that.

    So most of my concern has to do with returning to the office. I do also miss my weekly lunches with my father, who just turned 87 last month.

  14. Fern Says:

    Generally speaking, I think many states are rushing to reopen due to economic concerns, but I personally feel they're moving too fast. I will hang back and see what happens elsewhere before I venture out often.

  15. LivingAlmostLarge Says:

    I think they need to reopen and see what happens. I think staying closed is a bad idea. But at the same time I think we'll just have to see the new normal. Maybe opening with masks and gloves always worn outside will really mitigate it. Then we'll just have a cultural lifestyle change of always been socially distanced and how we go out.

  16. disneysteve Says:

    I definitely think the re-openings are being driven by economic and political concerns first and foremost, not medical and scientific data, but I also agree that it needs to happen. We simply can't keep the economy shut down indefinitely. It's already been 2 months in some places. Will it cause more COVID cases and deaths? Absolutely. There's just no way around that. And there will definitely be permanent societal changes as a result of this, just as we had permanent changes from 9/11. Masks are probably going to become a way of life. Gloves are worthless for this so I don't think that will be a thing(plus we're all far too dependent on our phones to wear gloves all the time and not be able to use our phones).

  17. ceejay74 Says:

    I think the things I love the most -- live music shows -- will be one of the last things to reopen, so my life will not return to normal anytime soon. Case detections are rising here but so is testing, so it's hard to tell right now where we are on the curve.

    As for everything else, I'm looking to my governor's advice. He's paying attention to science, he cares about people, he's working with businesses, he's very smart and surrounded by smart people. I'm so glad I have a local leader who is so trustworthy.

    I'd love my kids to be able to go to summer camps, but if the state deems it unsafe, then that's just the way it is. Same with travel -- we have tickets bought for family visits to Virginia and England this summer, but if we have to put them off until next year, we will.

  18. disneysteve Says:

    Ceejay74 some summer camps have already cancelled the 2020 season and I’m sure others will. I feel bad for the kids who won’t get that experience this year, the staff that won’t get to work this summer, and the parents now left figuring out what to do with their kids for 8 weeks.

  19. LivingAlmostLarge Says:

    A lot of parents will be scrambling trying to get childcare. I also know parents not paying for childcare because they lost their jobs.

Leave a Reply

(Note: If you were logged in, we could automatically fill in these fields for you.)
Will not be published.

* Please spell out the number 4.  [ Why? ]

vB Code: You can use these tags: [b] [i] [u] [url] [email]