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January 11th, 2019 at 11:08 pm

So I know this is a financial blog but I just need to vent. This year leading a girl scout troop has been a nightmare. Today it took the cake.

So where do we start? Guess the easy one. A mom brought her dog into the school to pick up her daughter and the dog pissed on the floor. I was appalled. I had to send her an email saying don't bring your dog into the school. I thought this was pretty standard. But I guess I was wrong. Common sense/courtesy is dead. They didn't even clean it up.

Second kid was poorly behaved. This is the 2nd time and I had to email the mom that she needs to start staying and helping at the meetings to focus her daughter. I don't know how this mom will react. She didn't react to the first email I sent about behavior.

Third situation a mom gave me a restraining order against her husband. They had a domestic violence incident in public, he went to jail, they are being sued. The TRO is for her and the kids. Apparently if he shows up I should call the cops. I emailed her and told her I wasn't comfortable with her leaving her child in my care and expecting me to deal with 12 other girls and her daughter. She needs to be present to deal with the situation. I don't think she's going to like me or the situation I required.

This year I find it incredible difficult with many of the new girls being difficult. They are rude, I've been talked back to, and ignored because they are unable to sit, focus, and listen. They sort of have been acting like very young children.

I am not making up how awful some of these kids are. I was sent an email from the secretary of the school I attended and she said that there have been noise complaints from teachers working late about the noise and disruption from our troop. Hence why I sent out the email last meeting. And this meeting I really cracked down. And now I have to pull parents in more for 3rd graders!

Okay enough venting. This was just me blowing off steam. My husband said it's a volunteer position and this is how it is.

8 Responses to “my girl scout troop”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    I'm so sorry! It does sound like you might at least need more help to manage these children.

  2. Smallsteps Says:

    I am sorry that some are ruining what should be a good experience for all. I think that it is a no win situation while ideal having some parents there to help if their child is a distraction it also brings in people who themselves can be a distraction.
    As for the restraining order I think it is foolish to expect everyone to be on watch and play bodyguard when your time need to be on ALL the Girls.
    We did these volunteer things befoire and i thinkit is much harder now then it use to be.

  3. creditcardfree Says:

    I'm going to chime in again and say that I do think that it was fine for mother with restraining order to inform you of what is going on. You are responsible for that child while in your care, yes along with the others. If someone is not suppose to be picking up that child or around that child you do need to know that. And calling 911 is not that hard IF it were to happen. That child deserves to participate (assuming good behavior). Not the child's fault the parents have issues. You don't have to do anything extraordinary, just be aware and if it comes to it, call 911, so someone can be on their way if the child is taken. I know it feels like a big deal to take on, but it doesn't have to be.

  4. Livingalmostlarge Says:

    I'm curious what the council will say. Because I am not comfortable calling 911 for her dad. My cotroop leader refuses and would bail completely. She deals with these people in real life and said no go. She's a shrink and knows how it works. So I think I'll have to wait and see what each parent says and what is the rules of the society.

  5. creditcardfree Says:

    That is wise to check in with the girl scout rules. I would feel terrible if someone took someone's child who I knew had a restraining order and did NOT call the police. But you have to do what you think is right.

  6. CB in the City Says:

    Ask the mother to come early for pickup. She can wait until activities are finished, but she will be there if the father shows up.

    Frankly, I think it is the civic duty of everyone to uphold restraining orders. We all have to support the law to make it work. What if it were you who needed protection?

  7. rob62521 Says:

    Wow, what a lot to handle. But you are right, common decency is history.

    Personally, I don't think you are out of line asking any of these parents to stay and help out. As for the restraining order, I can see where you would be uncomfortable with that. Is it just you leading this troop? Maybe the other mothers could take turns and help you out so you aren't shouldering the whole burden.

  8. livingalmostlarge Says:

    CB maybe. But the guy was arrested for DV and destruction of public property so the fight was in public. I also feel like I have a responsibility to the other 12 girls in the troop not just the 1. I am not entirely sure the other parents would be happy to find out something happened to their child on accident while trying to deal with the girl and her parents. Right now I am waiting to hear back about liability and insurance and what the council's rules are. Because there is a liability. Also right now I have no mentioned this to other troop members parents who may feel upset and not want their children in that situation.

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