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Wedding gift question

June 13th, 2017 at 08:02 am

We can't unfortunately make it to my cousin's wedding. I'm not sure how much to give in "gift" value. Culturally my mom has always said you give the value of your meal if you go. This is pretty much true and usually it's cash. It also increases if family. However we aren't going.

I'm sad to not be going but with everything the way it is, we just couldn't have gone. It's a super busy time for us with moving that it wouldn't have made sense.

That being said I was thinking from their registry a $39.99 gift from bed bath and beyond with a 20% off coupon so still free shipping at $32.00. Then use a BBB gift card I bought on Giftcardgranny which I save 10% on so $22.50 for $25. And that will bring my spending to around $30? Is this ridiculously cheap? Do I seem cheap?

I know it's the thought that counts. If it were a friend I might have just sent a nice card. But I usually send gift cards to target when other relatives haven't registered.

I guess I don't want to look too cheap. But at the same time I wonder if I have to give $100-200 gift since we aren't going? UGH. I hate this social etiquette thing.

3 Responses to “Wedding gift question”

  1. creditcardfree Says:

    Please give what gives you the most peace as a giver. Do not overthink the expectation part. This couple will be getting lots of gifts of varying value. If they are not grateful for what has been given then that is on them.

  2. Thrifty Ray Says:

    This is such a personal decision and I agree it can be tough to decide. That said, I wouldn't discount the gift value based on the fact that you can use coupons etc. The couple obviously wanted the item since it is on their registry. A gift is just that, a gift and should be from the heart, not based on price.

  3. kashi Says:

    I'd base your gift amount on the retail price, not what you pay. So you're sending a $40 gift. I think that's reasonable depending on how close you are to this cousin.

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