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Kindergarten Woes

November 10th, 2015 at 07:05 pm

So my kindergartener came home yesterday from school a bit upset. I got an email from the teacher she and the boy sitting next to her got into a fight. He drew on her paper first and she retaliated by drawing on his paper. I know I laughed because it is the age. But then he drew on her face and she started crying. She was then set to the nurses office to clean up an calm down. The teacher sent me and email and said they had been sent to time out and had misbehaved and were both not allowed to finish the art project with pens but pencils as punishment.

I asked my DK1 what happened and she explained the story. The story I wrote above I emailed the teacher and it was confirmed. We explained to DK1 that it was wrong to retaliate by writing on someone else's paper and the correct thing to have done was to tell the teacher. We did say we were glad DK1 didn't retaliate and draw on the other child and escalate the fight. She wrote and apology note to the teacher today for fighting.

But DK1 refused to apologize to the other child. My DH and I are torn. Do we make her apologize? Allow her to not apologize and let her avoid the other child? I feel a terrible parent because I felt like laughing over something that has happened between my own two kids. So I get it. And between the two kids I make them apologize.

But now what? Besides the point DK1 has to get over it, we made her go to school today when she didn't want to and see the kid. Why? Because the kid is a neighbor that rides the bus too. FWIW he didn't go to school today.

It's starting already. Navigating the social aspects of school.

3 Responses to “Kindergarten Woes”

  1. LuckyRobin Says:

    I don't think your child should be the one apologizing to the other kid. He instigated and he escalated. He should be the one to apologize, and if he does, she should be gracious and accept it. Apologizing to the teacher was right, though.

  2. creditcardfree Says:

    I don't think forcing an apology helps. I'd let it go as is. And I agree she should accept any apology the boy makes. Hopefully, they both learned something from the situation. Smile Children make mistakes. What we want is for them to learn from them!

  3. Buendia Says:

    Oh poor kid! It's good that she went to school. And I have to say, there are times when I feel like my paper has been written all over (figuratively) and I just want to scribble on the other person's! I was saying to the teenager who takes his piano lesson after F: it's hard being a kid! You have all this growing up to do, and no real control over your life.

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