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Tired of hearing it...

February 4th, 2015 at 11:33 am

Seriously winter sucks. I can't believe how much snow there is. I have ice dams hanging off my house. I also have 2 inches of ice on my stairs, life is not good right now. But seriously I am finding that my friends are splintering into two groups. Those with money and those with less.

The group with money often don't even realize their lifestyle is not the norm. For instance recently they are SAHM who on a snow day hire a babysitter and go to the spa. I was told "we deserve it, spent all day cooped up inside. It was tiring yesterday and we are used our "me" time," since the kids normally go to preschool in the mornings. I was invited but said sorry too expensive a day. My DH hears this story and the invite and said "what part of staying at home with your kids is hiring sitters and going to the spa?" I hear that a lot recently from a group of moms, "we deserve time away from the kids. You should send them full time and get time to yourself. How unaffordable can it be?" I'm seeing a pattern.

Of course on the flip side you see those moms who either stay at home and say they can't do anything. Or who are working and say they have no money because everything goes to childcare. I hear complaints from these friends about how hard it is to do anything. And I find it interesting that mom's who stay at home but with a very tight budget are offended by the suggestion to work. And those who work are horrified at the idea that if didn't work they'd have to live on half or reduced income.

The pattern I'm seeing is that very few people are actually satisfied with what they have or make. Very people understand or realize that the grass is not always greener on the other side or that some people are satisfied with less money.

I mean the people who have money rolling in have no idea how to people live on so little money. You just can't when you are used a certain lifestyle. And those who have less can't fathom spending that much and desire more but aren't willing to make a sacrifice of working more. While dual income families are jealous of those not working but never stop to examine how much less often times the single income families are living on.

I rarely make financial comments to friends because I doubt they would listen. But I really want to shake them all and say be satisfied and realized people make difference choices for different reasons. That if you choose to work then realize you make more than the family who has one breadwinner.

But when will people learn? What would happen if more people were satisfied with what they have?

4 Responses to “Tired of hearing it...”

  1. Butterscotch Says:

    I am not a SAHM, I work 40 hours and my 1 year old goes to daycare. I know that I need time away from the baby so I imagine someone who is a SAHM is climbing the walls to get out on her own once in a while. I feel like I never have time for myself and then I feel guilty for wanting time for myself. Being a mother is full of complicated emotions. If I had the money I would go to the spa and try to relax once in a while.

  2. JulieAlbright Says:

    One thing I know about the Mommy Wars, they NEVER end. LOL No really, I think women have been squabbling with each other about these issues probably since Rosie The Riveter sent her kids over to Grandma's house and trotted off to the factory - if not before that.

    You'd think we'd be over it by now, but it still goes on and on and on.

  3. scfr Says:

    As an outside observer (childless woman), I've always found the mommy wars very distressing. Why can't women support each other in the choices they make?

  4. VS_ozgirl Says:

    You'd think that women would stick together instead of judging each other, it's sad isn't it?

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