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Miserly People

October 6th, 2014 at 09:42 am

So how do you know someone is cheap versus frugal? Well I'm going to tell you a story. You're probably going LAL why are you friends with this person? And my answer will be I'm trying to shed her but it's slow going.

So Drusilla (nickname) is dropping her two children off at another friend's house (the Commandant). Drusilla sees Tabasco (commandant's kid) and Skipper (mine) and "says why are they here? I thought the commandant was taking them away," so her two kids (Gus and Jack) could be watched by Commandant's teenage kid Big E. She brought one $5 Cheese pizza and said to Big E "don't feed Tabasco and Skipper, I want the leftovers."

Um okay can you say rude? Hello? No pizza for the babysitter? And you can't spare a piece for my kid and Commandant's kid? We've feed your kids before. It's one of those moments where I realized the cheap Drusilla reigned again.

Also when I said I was buying Drusilla's kid an outfit for the second birthday I was told not to she wanted cash. So I put the screws to her and said it was to match my DK #2. And I wanted to see since she was consigning all the other clothes the Commandant gave her from Tabasco! OMG. How could she sell the clothes that were given to her? I know this because she has NO matching outfits for her kiddo which I know she should have since I have it for Skipper and saved it.

May the shedding begin.

Edited: I said I would like to buy a gift and the mother said "give me money." Not great thank you so much, and turned around and returned it. NO, it was a blatant ask. Second, I found out after our mutual friend was asked last year when she gave a gift to return it and instead give Drusilla money. She returned the gift and didn't give anything. The commandant was a bit miffed at being told please take your gift with the gift receipt back and give cash instead.

Second, Drusilla asked Big E (babysitter and Commandant's older child) to not eat the pizza and pack up leftover. Perhaps I'm wrong but since when do people NOT feed the babysitter? Fine don't feel other people's kids. But the babysitter?

Third, there is no way it's okay to consign people's clothes they give you? But perhaps it is.

7 Responses to “Miserly People”

  1. snafu Says:

    Seems that individual operates under a different set of protocols than you're accustomed to seeing. You're free to ignore her and offer her children attention and kindness or not. In many, possibly most homes, a gift given is the property of the receiver to do with as they like. I agree with you. Asking for a gift of money is impolite but if you buy the child a gift that mom is free to return it for cash. You could decline the invitation and side step the whole gifting issue.

    You could decline requests for her children to visit your home. I'm wondering if the meals they get at your home are the best they are offered. Some mothers measure out food according to daily nutritional requirements published by USDA [grain 3 oz, fruit 1/4C, veg 1C, dairy 1C, protein 2 oz.] for a 2 y/o .

  2. LuckyRobin Says:

    I don't really have a problem with the food. She didn't know the other kids would be there and planned her meal accordingly. Maybe those leftovers are for her to send with her kids to school the next day because she didn't have time to go to the grocery store to buy sandwich fixings. Maybe if your kids eat them her kids don't get lunch the next day. Maybe what you read as rudeness is really budgetary constraints.

  3. klarose Says:

    Again. As the other two said. I try not to judge other people and their situations. You don't know the full story. You can only worry about and control yourself. If you don't like someone, or their actions, don't hang around them. Simple as that.

  4. LivingAlmostLarge Says:

    Oh it's because she's cheap Snafu, LF, and Klarose. Cheap and miserly. Lucky Robin is it norm where you are to not even feed the babysitter? Fine don't feed my kid but the babysitter? I found that insulting.

    She's also the type of person who refused to give the kids crackers and said it's expensive crackers for adults, but brought it to a potluck dinner of kids and moms.

  5. LuckyRobin Says:

    No, it's not the norm to give the babysitter food unless it is an all day thing (or 4 hours or more) and that is only if it is taking place in the kids' house. If it is taking place in the babysitter's house than it is not necessary to provide food for the babysitter. It is necessary to provide food for your own kids in that instance, though, or pay extra for the babysitter to prepare food for them.

    If there is a pattern of cheapness than I can understand your frustration, but I don't think that she's actually wrong about the pizza. Of course it would be nice if she shared, but she is under no obligation to do so if it is not an agreed on term of the babysitting.

  6. FS Says:

    Does this person have financial problem? I can sort of understand all of these actions if she does. Doesn't make her less of a rude penny pincher, but still understandable.

  7. LivingAlmostLarge Says:

    Nope just a very cheap person. As a follow up, the Miserly Cheapo invited Ms Jones out to dinner again and the last three times Miserly has used a groupon and Ms Jones has paid the difference. This past Sunday Ms Jones used a groupon and Miserly Cheapo asked to SPLIT the difference!!! Seriously! After expecting Ms Jones to pick up the tab when Miserly has a groupon she asks to split? She's cheap.

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